As you can imagine this has been a rather surreal week for all of us, and forgive me if this post is a bit maudlin, and a bit of a meander. Some of this will be me figuring out my thoughts for this week.
First, I learned that everyone should have what Dave Ramsey calls a “love drawer,” that’s where you have all of your relevant information for your spouse or whoever is going to be dealing with your affairs after your death. Patrick did not have this, I don’t know if Jeff and I really have one organized properly. But, this would be where you have all of your accounts listed, how your bills are paid, and all of the information that will be needed when you die. I know my Mom had emailed me where hers is in case something happened about a year ago.
Second, I’ve learned you shouldn’t take for granted someone will be there longer. It sounds cheesy, but don’t put off seeing someone thinking they’ll still be there tomorrow, it may not happen, no matter how much you think it will. We certainly didn’t think Patrick would die last week.
Third, have a good support system. I’m tremendously blessed that way. This entire week someone has brought us a meal every night. We have enough food to last us for at least part of next week, which is good, because I’m sure there will be more to deal with. And, all I’ve had to do is say I might need babysitting for something and people have volunteered to watch the kids, do whatever I’ve needed.
Also, I’m always amazed at how God cares for us in the little details. That night, my brother and his wife were at my house when Mom called, as was my friend Tara. My Mom called and said to come over, and all 4 of us were able to go as soon as she called, and Tara stayed with the kids, all night. The victims services person who came to help was one of Mom’s good friends at church. Even in the worst of times I can see God’s hand in all of this. You just have to look.
Well, I’ve deleted the oddest parts of the post that weren’t sounding right, and I”m off to the next step in the service planning. I’m amazed at how many details there are to plan.
I'm glad you have such a good support system around you. What a difficult, sad, and challenging time to be going through.
You are in our thoughts and prayers.
I am so sorry you are having to go through this right now. What a blessing to have meals and friends to help though.
Oh, Ticia…sending love and prayers!
God will provide for you and your mom…all of you.
I'm am so glad you have support close by – willing to help! Praise the Lord for your MOPS group.
My goal was to get our Love Drawer completed by Christmas, but with your encouragement my new aim is to have it finished before Mr. G's next business trip. Please keep me accountable.
It sounds like you have some wonderful support around you, and I'm sure that's a blessing during this difficult time. Once again, I'm very sorry for your loss.
Great advice. I will start working on a Love Drawer and ask my husband to do the same. May God bring you comfort at this time.
I cannot imagine what your family is going through – losing him so soon after the wedding. I wish all of you strength, and it's great that you have such a good support system around you.
I am happy to hear that you have so many wonderful people in your life to help you through difficult times like this. I am so sorry for your loss. I cannot even imagine how difficult this must be for all of you.
I am glad you have things to be thankful for during this very difficult time for your family.
I'm sorry to hear of your loss. Sending lots of positive energy towards you and your family as you find your own way through the grieving process.
Amen to everything you said here, and I am so glad you have a great support system to be at your side through this most difficult time.
Our prayers are still with you.
Ticia,
I have no idea what has happened, but my heart and my prayers go out to you and your family. XOXOXO
I'm so sorry about your step-father! Sending you and your family lots of prayers!
Ticia,
I have just nominated you for a blog award. I know you probably don't want to deal with this right now, so don't worry about it until things are better for you. I just wanted to let you know how much I appreciate you and your blog and I thought it might bring a smile to your face to know.
https://homeschooljournal-bergblog.blogspot.com/2010/09/i-just-received-blog-award-from-love-2.html
All so true. I'm so sorry all of this has happened…
Yes, by all means get that “love(r) drawer” ready…it's not morbid, it's necessity.
Also I've had to make sure I've done mine since it's just me, but also have your #1 and #2 family(ies) named to be guardians of your kids in case of anything as well.
Thought of you guys today….I was hoping to get some praying done at church but Tigger has been sick so we prayed for you in our bed instead.
So glad to hear you have had wonderful support and help this past week ~ and I'm sure in the weeks to come too.
So very to learn of your recent loss (and the flooding). I meant to comment earlier, as I have read your other posts, but now as good of time as ever. May God continue to give you strength and comfort. You're lucky to have such a wonderful support system both at home and online!